So I realized that I am a Beta Male. How do I change so I don’t end up feeling bitter and empty. I really appreciate your posts because you always keep it real

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Beta males don’t exist. I’ve spoken to enough men who feel like beta males and find that usually they aren’t getting women, or have low confidence because

they’re stagnate. They’re boring. They’re gross. And their standards are too high.

In terms of stagnation a lot of the men I talk too who feel like their betas, do NOTHING to improve themselves. They play the same video games, they talk about the same shit they did in highschool, they quote decade old jokes from tv and consider that “telling a joke” when they’re just mindlessly repeating something, and they sit around a bitch about women, and will continue to do that till their death bed, because they’re stagnate. They try nothing new, there is no attempt at self improvement because in order to improve ones self you have to admit you’re lacking in certain areas, and you have to do a lot of self reflection and I’ve noticed beta males, once they get into the idea of  “Maybe I should improve this-” it becomes, “I’m not enough,” to “I’m worthless” and they kind of just, stay there, get sad, but never do anything about it except blame everyone else.

And because of this, they’re fucking BORING. They stay in their safe reddit subgroups, and favorite porn sites. They say they have a lot of female friends, but none of these women actually talk to them, the women just said “friends” because this dude is gross and creepy and they don’t want him to murder them, so they say “friends” in hopes he’ll back off and they have time to run away. I’ve heard hundreds of these dudes ramble on and on, and it’s the same thing over and over again.

Bitching about women.

Which, women bitch about men, but men do it in this entitled, threatening kind of way, “A big breasted super model hasn’t crawled out from under my bed and sucked my dick! What the fuck is the bullshit! I deserve dick sucks from super models! All women are whores and should die choking on my cock!” and they’re sitting there in their filth and grime, t-shirts with holes in it, and slightly, always, constantly drunk or high. And thats usually all they talk about, and it’s fucking BORING, and no woman wants to sit there and be threatened, bored, and insulted. Why would a woman want that? Most people, not just women, want someone kind, generous, empathetic, interesting, and sweet. A lot of the men I’ve spoken to, who feel like “betas,“ lack all of these things.

Hygiene is another thing. I dunno you, I don’t know if you shower. But take care of yourself! Wash and bathe yourself! Get a fucking hair cut by a professional! Throw out clothes with holes in them! Or at least learn to sew to repair it! Wash your face! Change your bed sheets! Clean your house!  Wash your clothes! Look in the mirror before you leave and think what role in a tv show would you play? The stereotypical creepy dude outside of a girls window breathing heavily? Then go change and try again!

And last bit, your standards may be too high. If you want a big breasted super model, ask, if you were a big muscular male super model, would you date the female equivalent of you? Would you even date the female equivalent of you now? Probably not. You may be wanting women way of your league simply because they’re beautiful and not really caring about the kind of person they are because all you may care about is looks, and if that’s the case, then don’t be surprised when people look at you and think “no” because they’re doing the same thing. Personality and interests matter more than looks, but if you’re stuck on a womans value being her appearance, unless you get really rich, you’re probably going to die alone.