Tag: qpr

burned-toast:

queenkubdel:

breeeliss:

megatraven:

REMINDER THAT QUEER PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS ARE A THING AMD ARE DIFFERENT THAN FRIENDSHIP

the tern queerplatonic is also not an attempt for queer people to “pretend they’re special” and they’re also not “basically the same thing as friendships.”

this was a term that was coined by individuals within the aro/ace community in order to describe and validate their relationships. it’s surprisingly difficult for people to understand the nuance of having a partner with whom you share intense emotional intimacy with (moreso than with your friends), and being in a relationship with said partner that is not strictly romantic and/or sexual. there are some aro/ace individuals who don’t want their relationships to be chalked up as merely “friendships.” queerplatonic allows for the visibility of a wider range of relationships, and it’s a good term to normalize so that we can teach people that relationships with others are not so strictly defined. 

it’s a meaningful label for a lot of people. it also doesn’t hurt anybody. there’s no need to delegitimize the term or anyone who is in a queerplatonic relationship simply because you don’t understand what it is. 

Thank you! A lot of people comment on posts like these with “haven’t you people ever had FRIENDS???” Yes, I do have friends. I have best friends, I have people I’m close to very much and value their friendship highly. But they are NOT the same as a queerplatonic relationship, and it’s really insulting when people assume that QPRs and friendship are the same thing when we keep telling you otherwise. Not everyone who wants a QPR is necessarily a loner who doesn’t know what true friendship is and wants to be special. Chances are, many of us know perfectly well what close friendship is, and we are trying to describe something else. That’s literally the point of why this term exists in the first place.

remember when I asked you guys to think if something isn’t hurting anyone or affecting you you shouldn’t laugh at it? this is what I was on about

And here we go!  I love this post!  

Hate those asshole “friends??” posts.

this says it in a far better way than i ever could.

thatringtailedbastard:

thisacelovesheadcanons:

chase-is-not-crash:

thisacelovesheadcanons:

chase-is-not-crash:

you: non-monogamous queerplatonic relationship

me:

Just let Aro people have their fucking terms without giving them shit or belittling them.  Why is this so fucking hard for people???

in the instance of QPRs, aro people /aren’t/ using “their fucking terms”.

the word ‘queer’ has deep history as a homophobic/transphobic slur- not as an aphobic slur. it’s disrespectful to remove the word from that context, especially since the label “best friend” already exists to describe close platonic bonds. people have a right to criticize that.

Lovely, but have you forgotten the history of the fucking 90s where that term was fought to be reclaimed?  Sure, people have a right to not have it used on themselves but you’ll fucking pry Queer from my cold dead fingers.

This isn’t criticism.  This is open mocking and belittling.  If you want to talk about things, talk about them.

Don’t be a dickwad.

QPRs are not best friends.  I have best friends.  I would not consider them QPRs because that’s not what they are and I’m not Aro.

Okay what are QRPs and how are they different from best friends? I legitimately do not know

I’m not aromantic. I don’t want to talk over anyone who might be.

If I have any followers who are Aro and would like to comment, please do so.

My understanding of a QPR is… well.  Would you wanna marry your best friend? Spend the rest of your life with them?  Raise kids together perhaps?  Buy a house? Sleep in the same bed (or not depending on your level of comfort)

Basically, think of what you desire out of a romantic relationship and then remember that aromatic people don’t feel romatic attraction.