Tag: trans stuff

I hate the hyper performance standards that trans folks are held to.  Like if a trans woman wears pants and no makeup and isn’t hyper feminine (you know, the things cis women reject and get praised for) then she’s faking or whatever and people will pull her apart.

Same thing for trans men and other trans masculine folks.  If we don’t perform to the highest standards of masculinity then we’re faking or god forbid we get attacked by our own community as “””””””Trenders””””””” 

I’m sick and fucking tired of it.  I just wanna be a pretty boy.  I know I’m a dude.  I know i am.  But for fucks sake can i be a dude that wears a cute skirt every now and then?

viparious:

thisboyinabinder:

osterfields:

guys my mom’s new boyfriend is trying to be supportive of me being a trans guy and he said “i got you a gift, a boy gift”

it’s a mountain dew nascar trucker hat. i wanna scream, like it’s nice he got me a gift and it’s nice he’s trying but…. I wanna Sc r EAM

Guys drink MOUNTAIN DEW

And drive

N ASC AR

And wear

Tr u ck hA ts

Dad and I used to watch NASCAR together all the time.  If he were still alive he’d probably get me a Dale Earnhardt cap.

Scream all you want but wear it around him my dude

so i reached out to my doc’s office to find out if i needed my therapists notice to get started on T and they said no, they’re just gonna have me talk to an endo and have a consult first and then get started and I’m fucking crying again.

so I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately on testosterone and the changes it makes in people’s bodies and the more i read about it the more i want it.

I’m still unsure about top surgery (and I really don’t think I’ll ever want a phalloplasty) 

But… I wanna be on T.  I wanna go through these changes.

I need a better Binder before I do though

I posted this on my FB on TDoV

(A bit late posting it here, but fuck it)

As today is trans day of visibility I’m here to remind you that I am, indeed, trans. While I do not fall into the binary I am not the gender I was assigned at birth.

I try to be out and proud about who I am, who I’ve grown into. It’s hard to correct people. It’s hard to remind them. It’s hard to hear people who know who I am not even trying and then saying “oh it’s so hard to remember”

It’s hard to hear people disrespect me all the time.

But I’m here. I’m proud of me.

And I’m struggling. I want to make it clearer than I am trans, but I don’t want to start something that I can’t reverse because people refuse respect me.

I want to transition. But am I doing that so people will stop misgendering me? I don’t know. It won’t stop some people who insist on knowing what a stranger’s genitals look like.

I just want to be respected as a human being. I’m not demanding respect as an authority figure. I just want basic human respect for who I am.

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As of today, I’ve been thinking about this a lot too, and I keep wondering why i want to transition, why i want to get on T.  Is it to make a point?  Will i feel more comfortable?  Do I really feel better about myself wearing a binder?  Am i too old, too set in my ways, too lazy to transition? 

Its a lot of work.  

Do I want to put my cishet SO in the uncomfortable position of having people question his sexuality?  

Do i want to deal with familial fallout?

I don’t know.

I don’t know what’s going to make me happy.  I feel frustrated by not knowing.  I feel… angry that I don’t even know who i am.  I know I’m… not a woman.  I know that much.  What am i beyond that?

I don’t know.  

That scares me.

I say I’m nonbinary and that’s a label that seems to fit comfortably for now. I just… what am i even doing?

down-with-terfscum:

chatterwhiskers:

kitsiyo:

kitsiyo:

Buzz from the Honey Nut Cheerios box is a trans guy

look

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He’s got a stinger, and only the worker bees have those. And what are all of the worker bees? Female.

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Males do not have stingers. But it’s clear Buzz is portrayed as a boy. My conclusion? A happy trans dude living life and eating cereal.

Thank u for your time

this is an excellent observation but I’d like to add: bees don’t fall into the same gender binary as we have in western culture. There isn’t just male/female.

as you’ve shown here, there’s workers, drones, and a queen. the queen is obviously the female, the drones are males, but … worker bees are a little different. since science is a broad, highly flawed, and extremely cisnormative field, researchers looked at worker bees and basically went “well, there’s boys and there’s girls, and these bees can’t impregnate the queen, so They Must Be Girls!”

In reality, they are technically neither. Since they’re bees, they don’t care what we think and it doesn’t bother them, but in human terms, worker bees are technically nonbinary.

or, rather, non-bee-nary 🙂

so to summarize with what everyone else has added, Barry B Benson, every bee in the Bee Movie, Buzz the Cheerios bee, and just about every bee in pop culture that is a worker bee is nonbinary.

I FUCKING LOVE THAT

saxifraga-x-urbium:

pochowek:

pochowek:

i love that one old timey 1910s trans dude who has a tiny wikipedia page for himself that he earned entirely due to him starting fights in bars and being the city’s hottest casanova

i mightve remembered it wrong but it still feels like half of this page is “I’m A Man For Fucks Sake” and the other half is “That Motherfucker Is In Jail Again And Also Bit A Cop”

oh my GOD this is the best list

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“[DEADNAME] Again" “ 

Like this glorious jerk got arrested so many times that was literally ALL THEY HAD TO WRITE IN THE PAPER