REMINDER THAT QUEER PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS ARE A THING AMD ARE DIFFERENT THAN FRIENDSHIP
the tern queerplatonic is also not an attempt for queer people to “pretend they’re special” and they’re also not “basically the same thing as friendships.”
this was a term that was coined by individuals within the aro/ace community in order to describe and validate their relationships. it’s surprisingly difficult for people to understand the nuance of having a partner with whom you share intense emotional intimacy with (moreso than with your friends), and being in a relationship with said partner that is not strictly romantic and/or sexual. there are some aro/ace individuals who don’t want their relationships to be chalked up as merely “friendships.” queerplatonic allows for the visibility of a wider range of relationships, and it’s a good term to normalize so that we can teach people that relationships with others are not so strictly defined.
it’s a meaningful label for a lot of people. it also doesn’t hurt anybody. there’s no need to delegitimize the term or anyone who is in a queerplatonic relationship simply because you don’t understand what it is.
Thank you! A lot of people comment on posts like these with “haven’t you people ever had FRIENDS???” Yes, I do have friends. I have best friends, I have people I’m close to very much and value their friendship highly. But they are NOT the same as a queerplatonic relationship, and it’s really insulting when people assume that QPRs and friendship are the same thing when we keep telling you otherwise. Not everyone who wants a QPR is necessarily a loner who doesn’t know what true friendship is and wants to be special. Chances are, many of us know perfectly well what close friendship is, and we are trying to describe something else. That’s literally the point of why this term exists in the first place.
remember when I asked you guys to think if something isn’t hurting anyone or affecting you you shouldn’t laugh at it? this is what I was on about
And here we go! I love this post!
Hate those asshole “friends??” posts.
this says it in a far better way than i ever could.
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